I felt guided to share these thoughts after watching Grey’s Anatomy last week. A man was attacked by his pet Python. Now those of you who know me well know that I normally could not even write or say that without a panic attack let alone watch it. Well wonder of wonders. Read on.
Pythons, Stress, Sin and Trust
I have been paralyzed for most of my life by even the thought of a snake. Someone mentioned EMDR as a potential help. Now I have to preface this with the fact that I had tried hypnotherapy, Bio-feedback, support groups, energy clearing, past life clearing. You name it I had tried it. I had a few breakthroughs here and there but still became sick and had panic attacks if a snake showed up unexpectedly on TV or in a magazine.
Well, I tried EMDR and it helped – a lot. I have not been faced with a snake in real life, but I no longer hit my husband out of fear reflex or throw up when I see one on TV. I even visited a python exhibit at the zoo in Seattle and was able to watch without emotion. So EMDR works.
What I found out during my therapy was that my fear and panic had nothing to do with the actual snake, although I had been traumatized by them many times in my childhood. My trauma came from never being supported or feeling cared for just for me. This showed up during the therapy in many situations I would never have otherwise remembered, or associated with these emotions.
When the Grey’s episode showed a huge Python wrapped around his owner trying to kill him, I did immediately panic and cover my eyes but when I calmed, I was able to watch the entire scene. One of the things that came out in this was that the snake wraps around you to kill you so it can eat you. It begins with a bite and then does not let go. Each time you breathe it tightens its hold.
The way you are killed is that the snake squeezes you so much your organs are forced up into your chest, suffocating you. A horrible way to transition if you ask me. The man who was being squeezed loved this reptile so much that even though it was trying to kill him to devour him he did not want it hurt.
As I thought about this for a few days, I was surprised it did not keep me awake and I did not have nightmares. Then I began to think about all of it and how much it resembles many of our lives.
We are addicted to our STRESS. It bites into our hearts, our souls, our lives, and holds on, pushing all our joy and peace and relaxation out the door. Yet we are so accustomed to it being normal that we invite more in. We love it and we don’t want to let it go. Eventually it smothers us so much we get sick, have traumatic experiences that cause body injury or engage in an emotional breakdown. And we end up in the hospital or home on extended leave and all we think about is what we aren’t getting done.
This is where SIN comes in. Self-Imposed Nonsense
Once we are stressed to the max, sick in bed or injured mentally or physically, we start to feel guilt. Our society tells us that if we are not stressed and producing continually, we are not worthy, we should feel badly and get back on the ‘horse’ as soon as possible.
We then suffocate ourselves and our emotional and sometimes physical guts become so tight we almost literally strangle ourselves.
NOW – here is where TRUST comes in. An anagram I like for TRUST is Total Release of Unnecessary STRESS to Truth. The truth is that you are always ok. You do not need to work the life out of you to be of value. You can TRUST that what you do from your heart is enough. YOU are ENOUGH. Setting boundaries is allowed but YOU have to set yours.
AND You do not need to protect or continue to take care of or be around those that take hold of you emotionally, physically and squeeze the life out of you.
I invite you to take a bit of time and think about your life. Where are you being suffocated? Who are YOU allowing to suffocate you? Would they support you doing the same thing to them? How many friends or family or people in general do you know that you always take care of and they turn around and bite you?
I would love to help you if you want to breathe freely in your life, your love, your purpose and your ambitions. Please visit www.riverangelranch.com/services and click on coaching packages. This energy can be cleared, these life choices can be changed. YOU have to release your own stranglehold on expectations set by others that feel as if they are your own. Dig deep and sort what are your own desires and expectations and what are not. Who do they belong to? How do you let them go? There are tools and options to sort it out and make the change but you are the only one who can do it. When it is right for you, you will feel it in your gut, you will know it in your heart and you will be ready to make a move for change.
When that time comes…
JUST DO IT!
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