Be Here Now
I was on a drive today through my river canyon. I made a conscious decision to drive in silence and let my thoughts roam where they might. It is a peaceful beautiful drive I never tire of.
As I thought how beautiful the day was I remembered something I heard somewhere and it got me to really thinking. I don’t remember where I heard this but I invite you to really really think about it.
What happens to today when it becomes yesterday.
I have mentioned that statement to people numerous times and the response I usually get is something like ‘yeah right’. I never can get anyone to actually engage in a conversation about it. Is it that uncomfortable a subject?
So – What does happen to today when it becomes yesterday? Well I don’t know and I don’t know anyone who does. BUT – what it does make me think about is what can I do with my NOW.
I can make a call I have been putting off. I can finish a project that has been sitting. I can play with my dogs or take them to the park. I can snuggle with my husband. I can DO something that I will remember; something not planned but spontaneous.
It is normal human behavior to plan – at least for most; my husband excluded. He is wonderful at just about everything else, but I do all the planning. It is my specialty anyway so why not? I am totally guilty of being a planner.
We want to know what is going to happen tomorrow, next week or next month. So, we plan and assume that what we expect will happen. But it doesn’t always work that way.
I heard a story today about 16 – yes 16 accidents on the same stretch of highway I used to travel every day, and many of the people involved are on the other side now. Did they expect to have a tomorrow? Most likely. I am sure their families were expecting them home. Now those families have to adjust to sadness, grief, and rearrange their lives. Their tomorrow will not be what they expected.
We cannot get time back. We don’t get to choose when ours will run out.
As we approach the Holidays in December – I invite you to choose to be present. If you exchange gifts, be present and imagine your loved one with the gift. Make it something meaningful. Perhaps something you made – something you used your time for.
Maybe offer the suggestion of giving an experience – something you can do together – something that will create a yesterday to remember, once it is gone.
Something wonderful to hold in our memories where yesterdays really reside.
Take this time of hustle and craziness in our Western world to sit for a moment and feel what it feels like to just be in that moment. Hear the sounds, smell the smells. What does your heart say? Discover something to treasure about that moment. Then perhaps make it two or three or 5 or 10 minutes or an hour.
BE HERE NOW as Ram Dass wrote. Your NOW will never be here again and there is no guarantee you will have another, so be present when you can and pay attention to those special moments when you are in the NOW and share a bit of gratitude for that.
Gratitude brings more opportunities for Gratitude maybe more NOWs.
Much love and Many blessings, Jeanette
About 10 years ago I was privileged to work at an event by Wayne Dyer called Excuses Begone.
It was a fun and enlightening weekend. As a master speaker and teacher he worked with individuals on many topics who felt they were unable to achieve or do or be something they dreamed of.
One person had a persistent weight issue, one person had a unfulfilling relationship they felt stuck in, one person felt they could never get the career they wanted and on and on.
With each one he calmly and kindly helped them see what all their excuses were, repeatedly telling themselves the reasons they could not have or be or do whatever it was they desired.
They each had big AH-HA moments that gave the clarity and courage.
As he gently broke down their excuses, those of us watching and learning for ourselves were nodding our heads and seeing the similar behaviors in our own lives. It became clear to me that we ALL create excuses to hold us in fear or limit our lives so that if we 'fail' we will not be accountable.
Do you know how many times Wayne Dyer was turned down or 'failed' before he got his break? He lost count.
I use this in my life nearly every day when I find myself blaming someone or some situation for my reasons to not jump out and be brave. Sometimes I let the excuses win and then I try again but eventually I jump and honestly I have never regretted it.
There were plenty of others who tried to point out why I should be embarrassed or have regrets but by then I was able to look at them and realize my courage made them uneasy because they were still stuck in their own excuses.
What is your excuse? Will you be happy you chose the excuse when you are on your deathbed - or will you regret not taking the chance?
Food for thought.
Ego and Kindness
We all have egos. We all live in them a lot of the time. It is not a typical thing to think about. “Am I in my ego or operating from my high self?”
Today I was out walking – power walking – when a realization hit me. It is not unusual for me to get spiritual insights and messages when I am out running or walking but today I was not really even asking for a message.
I might have overheard a conversation, I am not entirely sure. I was on the beach trail below Lincoln Park in West Seattle.
I began thinking about listening and communication.
I thought of conversations where I share something, and the person I am communicating with says something like ‘well yeah!” or “of course” or “I know” or “oh yeah”.
I sadly thought of times when I was a bit rude to others when they told me something new that they just learned and it happened to be something I already knew and my response was something like “Yeah I know”, or “of Course”. or “that information was out several months ago” or something equally as unkind.
The thoughts made me feel disappointed in myself. Sad that my ego erupted so often and so easily that I could be hurting people all day long and it happens so smoothly I am not even realizing it.
AND – everyone is doing it. We are doing it to each other. It would be so easy to be connected to our High Self instead of ego and probably answer instead with a response like “well that is fun to know” or “wow thank you for sharing that” or “where did you learn that – fantastic information”.
We each have to learn to respond in a way that feels natural but what is not natural is remembering how to get out of ego when we are in communication. When ego is present in communication it not only Edges God Out, it Edges Listening Out. When our ego is driving our conversations we are not listening in the present to those who are speaking WITH – not to – WITH. A Key concept. When ego is dominant we are thinking about what WE are going to say next instead of being present in what the other person in the conversation is saying.
When ego is the dominant communicator we don’t respond with compassion or sometimes not even an answer appropriate to the conversation. We are so wrapped up in what we want to say we don’t even take the time to listen to what our friend or co-worker is saying. Ego is the dominant player in most of our lives, or most of the time in our lives. It takes work to remember to be in High Self or in conscious self, but it can be done! It can be learned and it is not that hard or time consuming.
4 Steps to Conscious Self Living
Try one at a time for a week if it feels too much to incorporate into your life all at once. The important piece is to make sure you can make conscious self a normal communication technique, and ego self communication rare. When you feel yourself slipping away from listening actively, take a deep breath to connect you to source and remember YOU CAN live in conscious self and give EGO a vacation!
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Pythons, Stress, Sin and Trust
I felt guided to share these thoughts after watching Grey’s Anatomy last week. A man was attacked by his pet Python. Now those of you who know me well know that I normally could not even write or say that without a panic attack let alone watch it. Well wonder of wonders. Read on.
Pythons, Stress, Sin and Trust
I have been paralyzed for most of my life by even the thought of a snake. Someone mentioned EMDR as a potential help. Now I have to preface this with the fact that I had tried hypnotherapy, Bio-feedback, support groups, energy clearing, past life clearing. You name it I had tried it. I had a few breakthroughs here and there but still became sick and had panic attacks if a snake showed up unexpectedly on TV or in a magazine.
Well, I tried EMDR and it helped – a lot. I have not been faced with a snake in real life, but I no longer hit my husband out of fear reflex or throw up when I see one on TV. I even visited a python exhibit at the zoo in Seattle and was able to watch without emotion. So EMDR works.
What I found out during my therapy was that my fear and panic had nothing to do with the actual snake, although I had been traumatized by them many times in my childhood. My trauma came from never being supported or feeling cared for just for me. This showed up during the therapy in many situations I would never have otherwise remembered, or associated with these emotions.
When the Grey’s episode showed a huge Python wrapped around his owner trying to kill him, I did immediately panic and cover my eyes but when I calmed, I was able to watch the entire scene. One of the things that came out in this was that the snake wraps around you to kill you so it can eat you. It begins with a bite and then does not let go. Each time you breathe it tightens its hold.
The way you are killed is that the snake squeezes you so much your organs are forced up into your chest, suffocating you. A horrible way to transition if you ask me. The man who was being squeezed loved this reptile so much that even though it was trying to kill him to devour him he did not want it hurt.
As I thought about this for a few days, I was surprised it did not keep me awake and I did not have nightmares. Then I began to think about all of it and how much it resembles many of our lives.
We are addicted to our STRESS. It bites into our hearts, our souls, our lives, and holds on, pushing all our joy and peace and relaxation out the door. Yet we are so accustomed to it being normal that we invite more in. We love it and we don’t want to let it go. Eventually it smothers us so much we get sick, have traumatic experiences that cause body injury or engage in an emotional breakdown. And we end up in the hospital or home on extended leave and all we think about is what we aren’t getting done.
This is where SIN comes in. Self-Imposed Nonsense
Once we are stressed to the max, sick in bed or injured mentally or physically, we start to feel guilt. Our society tells us that if we are not stressed and producing continually, we are not worthy, we should feel badly and get back on the ‘horse’ as soon as possible.
We then suffocate ourselves and our emotional and sometimes physical guts become so tight we almost literally strangle ourselves.
NOW – here is where TRUST comes in. An anagram I like for TRUST is Total Release of Unnecessary STRESS to Truth. The truth is that you are always ok. You do not need to work the life out of you to be of value. You can TRUST that what you do from your heart is enough. YOU are ENOUGH. Setting boundaries is allowed but YOU have to set yours.
AND You do not need to protect or continue to take care of or be around those that take hold of you emotionally, physically and squeeze the life out of you.
I invite you to take a bit of time and think about your life. Where are you being suffocated? Who are YOU allowing to suffocate you? Would they support you doing the same thing to them? How many friends or family or people in general do you know that you always take care of and they turn around and bite you?
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When that time comes…
JUST DO IT!
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Yesterday we had a lovely gathering of our Port Townsend Angelcircle and I meant to take pictures but forgot. This is a group that is comfortable sitting close and engaging in lots of hugging. When we are together it is as if nothing is amiss in this world - as indeed it is not - it is all a perception.
But anyway, we talked a lot about fear and love and how those are truly the only two emotions.
After the group left I was meditating and reflecting on the love in the group and an article I had read in the morning about masking. It was from a nurse who was detailing how only the N95 mask will really protect you from a virus, and so I spent an hour researching that through several science sites and it carried a lot of truth. I found most said that a virus can easily get through a cloth mask either in or out because it is so small. The mask will prevent bacterial germs but not viral. One article in Science News said that viral germs will get in around a mask anyway. I found that all very interesting, especially in light of all the controversary out there on the topic and the severe emotions it is bringing up in a lot of people.
I still feel everyone gets to do what they want and if wearing a mask makes you feel better than do it, but felt I needed to share. So I asked my angels what the deal was here and this is what they said.
"Where there is love, deep trusting love of self as God, there can be no disease and the quickest way to dispel any notion or thought of disease is through hugging. Hugging is the human form of Divine healing when it is done with heart centered love."
This explains to me why someone like Mother Theresa administered to sick and highly 'contagioius' people for all her life and lived so long!
Neal and I have been out hugging everyone who will hug back - those we know and love who have been feeling sad and needing that touch - and it has been a wonderful experience. There are not too many, but the few we have found to hug were wonderful. We are finding more and more people who want to hug but thought they were not 'allowed'. Follow your heart!
The thing here is that if you are following heart centered hygiene and so is another in your circle, then hug them! Hugging will heal this planet quicker than distancing. When we are alone and apart, we fall apart - our immune systems cannot grow and function. So, especially for those of you who live alone, find someone else who is alone, who has been following safe hygiene and go HUG THEM! If you can't find someone call me! Your angels will be so happy!!!!!
I love you all and wish you health, peace, joy and love.
#HUGON - spread the word!!!
Angels Live Among Us
Jeanette Dames, Angel Therapy Practitioner & Guide